I Just Wanna Be A Girl!

The most important rule in the 'girl code' is to rescue any girl who looks like she needs help. She might be your worst enemy, but you should never leave her alone in an unsafe situation. If she asks for help or signals you for assistance, you must help her.  The next one is to be honest. If a girl asks you how she looks or if something needs fixing, it's your duty and responsibility to be honest. You have to tell her if she needs to adjust her clothes or if she is too showy. (It's up to her whether or not she listens to what you have to say. You just have to make sure someone tells her. You never know if she is clueless or just attention-seeking.)  Then there is the basic rule about relationships. Girls, don't try to get with your friend's ex. Siblings are out of the question too (unless you have permission). Think about how the situation would make your friend feel. You don't want to have to choose between her and the object of your affection. That certain...

This is pretty controversial. Most men think that women are people that need to be protected and aren't capable of protecting themselves. I believe that women are just as capable as men of protecting themselves. They will ask if they need help. I think there’s no need to smother them under the guise of ‘taking care of them.’ On the other hand, some women like to be taken care of. They might not need it but they appreciate it if a man takes the time and effort to take care of them. She definitely wants this man to know that she can protect herself and that she is allowing him to take care of her. Taking care of a woman is a hard job and men have to know what kind of woman they’re dealing with. Men need to know where to draw the line.  Women, I think, like to know that they are appreciated and cared for. However, in today's world, they are worried to show weakness. They are scared that they will be exploited if they show weakness - which is a pretty valid fear... Think about it.....

What does it mean to be a girl's girl? It's actually pretty simple.  I think it's really beautiful to be a girl's girl. It's really important for women to support one another. It's all about a woman being kind or genuinely good to another woman. She is a girl who respects other women and who knows how to treat them. One of the main things to keep in mind here is to respect the girl code.  This trend can be put in contrast to the 'pick me girl.' A pick-me girl does everything in her power to push other women down in order to get herself to the top. She is selfish and is willing to sabotage others. She is easily jealous and covets things that other women have worked hard for.  A girl's girl, on the other hand, celebrates other women. She feels genuine happiness for her friends. She would do anything to help a girl in dire need of assistance, even though she might be her greatest enemy. She might harbor some enmity, but she would help the girl if it was...

Oh my god. You have no idea how much I needed a day with my girls. Initially, I didn't let myself believe that I would be able to see them. I was so sure that something would come up at the last minute and our plans would be foiled.  I got to my friend's house around 10 in the morning. We started off with a nice long catch-up session. I spent quite a long time telling them about all the drama I had endured throughout the past semester. They made sure to react in just the way I needed them to. By that I mean they were on my side the whole time and they were acceptably aghast when required.  We were all very nostalgic in no time. We relived some of the things we did when we were in school together. The best part is that it felt like no time had passed. We were still best friends. There was a lot that happened since the last time we all saw each other - a year ago - but things didn't feel different.  We were overjoyed that we were still friends. (We had been that way since w...

(Disclaimer: This isn't universal. This is my point of view and many girls might have similar ideas.) What are some of the things that go on in a girl's mind? I'm sure all of you guys are curious.   The first one is about how they feel when they go out. For some girls, going out is a treat and a rarity. They aren't allowed to do so often. So, when they do, they make the most out of the opportunity. Then, there is the conflict of what to wear when they go out. It's different depending on who they are with. If they are going out with their parents, the clothes they wear would be different from something they would pick to wear with their friends. They also have to make sure that the outfit they choose is appropriate for their mode of transport and their destination.  Guys, you might think girls dress for your eyes. But, that is not true. They dress up for themselves. They dress up to admire themselves in the mirrors. (Yes, that does seem a little self-centred.) They d...

What's the point of trying on a bunch of clothes that you know you aren't going to buy? I'm sure those of you who like trying on clothes just for the pleasure of doing so have heard this question over and over again.  Let me give you my answer. I personally love trying on dresses. I have a strict mom who has pretty strict rules. (Who doesn't?) Let's not go into her rules right now. *insert eye roll here*  I feel invigorated when I try on things that I think will look good on me. I recently tried on a really pretty black dress. It was on the shorter side and I was a little shy to come out of the dressing room to show my friend. But one good look in the mirror was all it took to convince me. I gathered up my confidence and shook off my insecurities as I walked out.  I'm someone who usually wears jeans and a shirt of some kind. When I try on a fancy dress, I feel connected to my feminine side. I've had people say "Nee ponnu nu maranthuren di," to me c...

A couple days ago, I was out with my friends. I dragged them to accompany me as I tried on a bunch of dresses. I was having loads of fun. That's when I saw it.  It was so beautiful on the rack. It was black and simple. It was plain. There was nothing very special about it. Yet, it sang out to me. I had to try it on. I went to wait in line in the dressing room. When I put it on, I gasped. I didn't think I could look so good.  It was honestly the best thing I had ever worn. It stuck to my figure perfectly. As I turned around to get a better look, I found myself loving it even more. It felt empowering and powerful. Then, I looked down at my legs. (The dress was short. It didn't even come up to my knees.) I don't usually wear short clothes outside. I was a bit shy at first. I steeled up my courage. I assured myself that I looked amazing. I called my friend to come outside the dressing room and I scurried out to show it off. (I use the word scurried because that's litera...

Brother is a word, but Anna is an emotion.  I agree with this very much. I have 3 older brothers, but I can't think of a time where they have actually been what a brother is supposed to be.  One really important thing to remember is that 'Anna' doesn't have to be someone with whom you share blood. It's someone you choose to respect and admire. It doesn't matter whether or not you call them 'Anna.' What matters is that you make sure that they know how much they mean to you. What matters is that know how much you respect and admire and look up to them.  Yes, you usually call a guy who's older than you this way. But think about it, auto Anna, tea-stall Anna, etc. They all have some sort of emotion attached to them. The auto driver Anna makes sure you reach your destination safely. "Take care and be safe," some of them say as they drop you off. The tea-stall Anna makes sure you have enough to eat. "Do you want anything else?" they ask...

Elder daughter syndrome can be explained as the unique pressures and responsibilities placed on the oldest daughter in the family. As an older daughter myself, I can assure you that this is true.  The eldest daughter has the most expectations placed on her, in the family. There is an extreme need to succeed and to prove herself. They have to achieve great heights and take care of their family. Yes, they learn independence early on, but with that comes guilt and shame.  There's a saying that goes something like this; "the oldest child grows up with the parents and the youngest child is raised by the older one." The firstborn children are like trials. The parents themselves are just figuring out what to do. They are young, too. There's something else that happens here. So, the older sister raises the younger one because their parents are still learning. But, when the parents do figure out how to raise the child, they reclaim them from the older sibling, who has spent mo...

This post is about "Who Says" by Selena Gomez. This is one of the most motivational songs that I have heard. It's not my usual music (I'm a total Swiftie), but it makes me feel good about myself. The first lines read "I wouldn't wanna be anybody else. You made me insecure, told me I wasn't good enough. But, who are you to judge." Here, I feel like people have made her very insecure in the past. They all told her that she wasn't worth it. At one point she probably would have believed it. Finally, she realizes that people don't have the right to judge. She realizes that no one can bring her down.  Then she says, "I'm sure you got some things you'd like to change about yourself. But when it comes to me, I wouldn't wanna be anybody else." Here, she reminds us that everyone has self-doubts. Everyone has things about themselves that they want to change about themselves. Now, she is confident in herself and says that she wouldn...

Most of my best friends are guys. I have always felt like there is less competition and judgment in a male-female friendship. Most friendships between girls have some level of competition between them, whether it’s over something as trivial as looks or something bigger. Some women pretend like they care, but deep down, they just want to get ahead of you. On the other hand, I have found friendships between men and women to be pure. A male best friend is someone who would be the first person to give you practical solutions to your problems. He will tell you what’s right and what’s wrong. He might sound harsh and you might think that he doesn’t care about you whereas in reality, he cares deeply and wants to make sure you know what you’re doing. Male friends aren’t going to be jealous of you if you succeed. They genuinely revel in your success and comfort you through your failures. They also are really good secret keepers and can comfort you when you need it. They can help you put thin...

  I grew up without an attentive brother figure (or rather, they didn’t really know I was around), but I have always longed for a big brother. I’ve always been on the lookout for people I could consider a big brother but was unsuccessful until recently.  I always idolized my big brothers, even though they never really acknowledged my existence. A lot of my habits and preferences are based on theirs. First and foremost, a big brother is someone whose example you can follow. You can learn a lot from them. They teach you how to look at things and provide a unique perspective. They know you inside out and know how to reassure you appropriately. He shows you that he is your number one supporter and biggest fan. They are a reliable source of information.  A big brother shows you what unconditional love is. Yes, it's his job to chastise you, but beyond that, you can believe that it's because he loves you so much that he is strict sometimes. You know that he's not going ...

  Yes, I am one of those girls who spends most of her time with guys. That doesn’t mean I don’t need to remember the fact that I am a woman. Until recently, I thought I would be totally fine with spending all my time with a group of boys. At one point, I found myself deprived of all the things that made me a woman. I didn’t feel respected as a woman. Even though I had a group of male friends around me, I felt an extreme need for female companionship. There are just some things you need another girl for, right? I needed a girl to gossip to. I needed to moan and whine and just talk about the guys in my life. It might sound shallow, but I think it is one of the basic needs of a woman. When I was reading “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray, I noticed how he claimed that women need to be listened to to be validated. That obviously means having someone to talk to. What better place to go to than another woman who makes you feel validated. The world needs more women w...