Femininity?

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Why do guys think it's okay to tease a woman for not being feminine? No woman can be a girly girl all the time. Why do guys think it's okay to tease a woman for being a woman. Like - dude - make up your mind for god's sake, please. You tease us for being feminine and for not being feminine. What on earth do you want us to do then? 

Sometimes, a girl doesn't want to travel in the ladies' compartment on the train. That's okay. Right? Guys, do you know what happens in there? You literally can't breathe. If a woman is traveling - with her companions - in the general compartment, most men try to give her a bit of breathing room. Or, have you considered that she isn't comfortable traveling on her own? Is that not a valid reason to travel in the general compartment with her friends? Why does that have to be a question of her femininity or independence? Does that mean she is dependent, cowardly, or irresponsible? I don't think so. 

Why do guys have to say 'Why were you born a girl?' Stop to think for a moment of how the girl would feel when she hears that. In today's society, when she has to be so cautious all the time, think of how she would feel when someone she trusts says that to her. 

Then, there's the old standby of 'I forgot that you were even a girl.' Why is it that when a girl hangs out with a bunch of guys, she loses her femininity? What's the connection there? 

The point I'm making is why a woman has to be defined by what she does, her likes and preferences, the company she keeps, and her comfort zone. Please, just let her be a girl. Let her be her own person without judging her. The things she does doesn't make her any less deserving of your respect. If you have opinions, keep them to yourself. Think of the effect they have on her. Do you think this girl is going to want to look at you after you have questioned her femininity? 

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  1. Anderlin VictorSeptember 13, 2024 at 5:55 AM

    Trying to bring someone down by stereotyping their gender shows how insecure and narrow minded they are. You can't really change their perspective on how the opposite gender is because they refuse to look at other perspectives and examples which says otherwise. As they say, "A narrow mind and a fat head invariably come on the same person."

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